Ivanka Trump’s got Postpartum Depression

So…I was reading some articles about the recent comments by Ivanka Trump about dealing with postpartum depression. One article in particular was rather critical about the casual announcement during her Dr. Oz show appearance.

A couple of things here:

Each author points out that Ivanka Trump has a history of self-interest in a way designed to be uncontroversial while allowing her to relate to American women to garner support and sympathy. We can sit here and argue about the merits of those arguments. But I really don’t care about that.

I don’t care what Ivanka Trump’s intentions were. I also don’t particularly want to judge her experience. I’ve never been one to say that we should attempt to be relativistic and that we can’t or shouldn’t judge; rather we should judge and discern when needed. But I don’t want to judge whether or not she had postpartum depression. This Slate article even very subtly implies that she didn’t really have postpartum depression…she probably had “baby blues”.

We have enough problems getting women to get the help that they need when they have postpartum depression. I have talked to a number of women who are convinced that it’s “all in their heads” and that they just need to practice “mindfulness” or just exercise. For some women, with very mild postpartum depression or anxiety…that might work. But I’ve been incredibly frustrated that media and society continuously tries to treat postpartum depression and anxiety like a mind issue when it is a straight up medical problem. A woman’s hormones, for whatever reason, create a dangerous cocktail that fight against the body’s normal instincts to survive and nurture. The last thing that we need is the community trying to adjudicate whether or not some famous person really had postpartum depression.

Does it really matter if Ivanka Trump was angling for something different? No. Does it matter if she actually experienced postpartum depression or not? No. We don’t need to pick apart Instagram posts, Tweets or her own return to work to determine her diagnosis. In fact, as I’ve said before, the symptoms of postpartum depression manifest themselves very differently. There’s actually a lot of women who go back to work to hide from their postpartum depression. So, let’s just let this one go and not analyze it to death.

In fact, I actually hope Ivanka Trump didn’t have postpartum depression. Because that’s a dark, awful place that I wouldn’t wish on anyone. So even if this is just a self-serving stunt, I don’t care…because the more we talk about this, the more women we can save. Right, wrong or indifferent, she’s got a platform to the public. Let’s hope she uses it judiciously and responsibly. Let’s hope her talking about postpartum depression can bring one more woman suffering in isolation out into the sunshine.

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Sleep and Mental Health

The New York Times recently published an article on the impact of sleep on your mental acuity and mental health. It’s called, “Yes, Your Sleep Schedule is Making you Sick“. The article is fascinating for a number of reasons. It discusses ways to attack jet-lag depending on whether you’re starting from the east or west and also explains circadian rhythms. But it also discusses real impacts of lack of sleep on one’s mental health.

I think sometimes that we as humans have a tendency to push through and fail to appreciate the incredible value of sleep. In fact at times, lack of sleep can almost feel like a badge of honor. Sure we acknowledge that we feel tired, but it sort of seems like the disadvantages of getting enough sleep end there. Or at least the disadvantages aren’t worth the extra productivity that we get when we sacrifice work or whatever for sleep.

The article is great. Take a look at it. What it really does, is bring it full circle to postpartum depression for me. The postpartum period involves a lot of sleepless periods or interrupted sleep. I think we fail to recognize how important that is. The article goes on to point to cases where lack of sleep can bring out some pretty severe mental health symptoms.

It is so critical for new moms and dads to get sleep. Honestly one of the biggest things that I was worried about when I got pregnant was that sleepless period in the first couple of months. Seems like a trivial fear, doesn’t it?

I’m almost embarrassed that I was so concerned about it. Why?

The reality was quite different from what I had imagined, but it was still insanely hard. Hard to the point that it remains a huge factor in our considerations on expanding our family. My baby was a good sleeper who slept for three to five hours, right off the bat. Though he had colic, it was from 6PM to 10PM and colic was cured largely by nursing him for four hours straight. There was a lot of down time, where I could read or watch TV while he nursed and he would have big chunks of naps in the beginning which were great opportunities for me to catch up on sleep. Still, I became paranoid about sleep. I would get anxious if I wasn’t in bed by 7 or 8 because with a new baby you just don’t know how late they’ll sleep. I needed to ensure that I got a core 6 or 7 hours of sleep even if the baby woke early at say, 4AM. Because of my sleep anxiety, I refused to set an alarm for the first 10 months of my son’s life. When my son was four months old, my husband and I decided that he would take any and all night shifts, since my anxiety over getting enough sleep was so bad.

You do sleep as a new parent, but it’s different. There are many more interruptions which shouldn’t be trivialized because I still don’t think interrupted sleep is as good as uninterrupted sleep. Given that I had an easy baby for the first couple of months, I can’t imagine how much harder it would have been to have had a baby that nursed every hour or so in those first couple of months. I don’t know what the impact on my mental health would have been.

I completely believe that lack of sleep can mess with your mental health. Hormones are a devil in their own right, but sleep is so critical. Take a read on this article and work with your partner to increase your sleep, if you’re struggling. It’s more important than we might think.

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Why is Postpartum Depression so Hard to Talk About?

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Have you ever had a really vivid dream or nightmare? When you woke up, you pondered your dream. As you considered your responses and reactions while you were in the dream, you realized that they were wholly irrational and made no sense? But of course, while you were in the dream, all of these actions, thoughts and deeds were completely rational, right?

That’s sort of what postpartum depression is like, only it’s not a vivid dream, it’s an unending vivid nightmare.

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Do you Call it Postpartum?

I am absolutely 100% at fault for doing this.

I call my perinatal depression, ‘postpartum’ or ‘postpartum depression’ all the time. I mean, look at the title of my blog. It’s Postpartum World. That was intentional – as it’s describing my journey in the postpartum period of motherhood and I wanted to write about all things motherhood since my motherhood felt so singular and isolated. However, I’m starting to catch myself more and use terms like perinatal mood disorder, perinatal depression, prenatal depression and so forth.

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Am I an Activist?

I wrote my Representative and Senators today. I urged them to consider voting for House Bill HR 3235. In all honesty though, I think more is needed. The bill sets aside funding to support screening and treatment of women for postpartum depression. Yet I wonder about how effective such a bill would be.

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Oxytocin Levels and Postpartum Depression

I’ve linked before to this article that speculates that women with low oxytocin levels may experience depression associated with weaning from breastfeeding. Specifically, previous studies have suggested that women who have naturally low levels of oxytocin will suffer from depression.

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Did Hit Show ‘Jane the Virgin’ try to Address Postpartum Depression?

**Warning: depending on where you are on Jane the Virgin, there could be spoilers in this post**

On Monday night, Jane the Virgin possibly alluded to the character Petra having postpartum depression (Season 2, Chapter Thirty-Seven).

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